9 Signs That You Lack Personal Power

Experiencing emotions like hate and frustration stem from feeling un-empowered. When you feel like you don’t have control over certain aspects of your life, it’s difficult to maintain control over your feelings. Those emotions may be a sign that you are lacking in personal power. You can regain your personal power by changing your perception of any given situation. It could be as easy as choosing to think a different way.

When you are dealing with feelings of insecurity and frustration, your initial instinct is to try to control everything around you, regardless of the situation. All you really need to do is take control of your personal power, by choosing what you want from your life.

What end result do you expect from the activity, and why are you doing it? How will you achieve what you want? It’s a simple method to stop the frustration and take your power back.

Here are several signs that you’re lacking personal power:

1. You Waste Your Energy By Complaining – There’s a huge difference between problem-solving and complaining. Everyone needs a good rant every now and then, but if you spend most of your time complaining to anyone who will listen, then you’re too busy focusing on the problem, instead of looking for a solution. Complaining suggests you don’t have control over the situation or your attitude.

2. You Can’t Accept Responsibility For Your Feelings – If you constantly blame other people for how you are feeling, then you lack personal power. You shouldn’t allow the behavior of others to dictate your Accept that you have control over your emotions, regardless of how others choose to behave.

3. You Fail To Establish Healthy Boundaries – If you don’t speak up to yourself, and often allow others to guilt-trip you into certain behavior- then you’re giving your personal power away. Don’t blame other people for forcing you into behaving in a way you don’t wish to, or for wasting your time. You are in charge of you. Establish boundaries that provide you with control over how you behave, and whom you spend time with.

4. You Hold Grudges – When you hold a grudge, you are doing more harm to yourself than the person you’re holding the grudge against. You waste valuable energy and time thinking about the person who wronged you, and it robs you of your ability to enjoy life. The best way to take your power back is by forgiving someone and moving on. Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing someone, it simply means that you’re letting go of the anger and hurt it caused.

5. You Don’t Know Your Values – When you don’t know what values you hold, you leave yourself at risk of being caught up by someone else’s values. You can be led astray and led down a path you don’t want to take. Take your power back and acknowledge what values are true to you.

6. You Waste Time On Unproductive Thoughts – I bet you’ve spent your day wishing it timed up, or that you’ve spent your night wishing you were off the following day. You’re wasting your time, giving a workday even more power than it should have. Take back control of your thoughts and don’t waste brainpower on things that don’t deserve the energy.

7. You Engage In Victim Language – When you say things that you have to do something, or that you have no choice, you’re turning yourself into a victim. Sure, there may be something that is out of your control, but there are always choices to be made, and with every choice comes a consequence.

8. Your Self-Worth Is Dependent On Others – If your self-worth is dependent on the opinion of others, then you’re in trouble. Your self-worth should be rooted in how you feel about yourself. You don’t need to be liked by every person, nor do you need everyone to agree with the choices you make or the life you lead. Never give up your personal power by allowing one opinion to determine your worth.

9. You’re Afraid To Stand Out From The Crowd – Fear and self-doubt can be powerful, and these emotions may result in you feeling desperate to blend in with your surroundings. You don’t want to rock the apple cart or stand out from the crowd. Trying to blend in is preventing you from being who you really are; you’re effectively wearing a disguise. You should be mentally strong enough to be different, dare to stand out.

Be honest with yourself! If any of the above is you, be honest. You can change it though. You can take your power back and rise up! You can be that confident, powerful, fierce mom that you dream about being. Let’s do this!