Forget the Dumb Ass Opinions

For a long time, I put off really starting my business because I was so afraid of those dumb ass opinions from the people around me. Even worse I was afraid of judgment from people I didn’t even know. Every time I would post something, every time I would go live or do a video, I would get this sinking feeling in my chest. I would say to myself, “what if this pisses someone off?” or “what if they laugh?” or the worse thing, “what if someone makes a negative comment?” Those thoughts would stop me dead in my tracks every single time. Every. Single. Time.

So what changed? What finally made me decide that it was time to show up? I can’t really put my finger on it. Maybe it was the fact that I knew I could help people with what I had to say. Maybe it was my negative bank account reminding me that if I didn’t start taking action I was never going to get out of the hole I was in. Maybe it was that I wanted to show people they couldn’t keep me down and that I had something to say and something to give to this world. It was more than likely all of it though. One day I just had enough of worrying and carrying about the opinions of others. Those people and their ignorant opinions don’t pay my bills. And they certainly don’t help the people I knew I could help.

I won’t sit here behind this computer screen and ever make you think it was easy. It wasn’t. But what I can assure you is that it got easier every step I took forward. Every time I put myself out there it got easier. It was that first step that was the hardest. That first time that I truly said screw it here I go. That was the hardest one. But let me tell you what happened and I hear this so very often from others I work with now and others in the coaching world in general. That first or second time that you put your vulnerability on the line, you reach someone and they tell you that you reached them and helped them. That right there makes it all worth it. And that right there shows you that you stepping out there makes a difference. It still brings tears to my eyes when someone says I reached them.

So stop waiting for the right moment. Stop waiting for your website to be perfect or whatever it is that you are trying to make perfect. Step out. Step forward. The people who need you are there. And there will always be opinions. There will always be haters. Those people don’t pay your bills through and more than likely their problem is with themselves, not with you.